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Wednesday, June 08, 2005

What for invite?

After the dream, I woke up and thought to myself, whether I can marry XXX in 10 years time (OK, I know I'm dreaming again). And I was also planning whether want to held a buffet style dinner or those few-course dinner. But later, I was realized then, what is the purpose for having those dinners.

I have to go back to my father's hometown in Malacca twice or trice a year just to attend those dinners. My father was ranked number ninth in his family. Therefore, I think there are about 30 over cousins I have. Every year, we have to rush back from KL to Malacca, after dinner, from Malacca rush back to KL again (because those dinners were always to be held on Sunday). We can't put overnight there, because staying hotel in Malacca is just like staying hotel in San Francisco. They charge tourist's price instead of local price.

Sometimes when we recieve invitations from friends or relatives which stated someone someone is going to marry someone someone and having 10-course dinner at this this rstaurant or where where, we do really just go there for fun, seeing which lenglui is going to enter the 'hole room'. No doubt, marriage recorded a milestone in our life. We can also dressed ourselves in the best situation in our life on this day. But is it invitation is the best solution to tell the others that there is a couple is going to marry?

I have came acroos many wedding dinners in my life. So far, the results didn't make big differences. Everytime if we don't want to go, complaining about transport problems, selection of date is unwise...... we'll ended up get fired left, right, up down, in front, behind and right in the middle, saying that we didn't give face lah, show no respect here and there. But if we go, we'll definitely be neglected aside. As my father ranked the ninth in his family, therefore, we'll have to sit the most behind around the corner, and we can't realy see how to lenglui and lengzhai kissing each other.

Besides that, are those people really go for the dinner to congrate them? For each guest, (s)he must pack a minimum RM50 red packet for the bride and groom. If not emough, the next dinner you'll not be invited, and they'll curse behind of you. For some people, they just want to show off their richness, they'll walk inside the restaurant with a datuk tongkat (they aren't lame), chest pushed up, and give the red packet withouut looking at anyone (they aren't blind too). And some will think that this guy really par-pai to give the red packet.

Did people really go for the dinner? Most likely when you attend a wedding dinner, you'll definitely see people cheersing around to the each table. Yet, when they came to our table, they'll force us to cheers with them. I am still an under-age small boy, my mom doesn't drink, my dad has sickness that make him can't drink, and they'll also force us to drink. If we don't do that, ended up say we didn't give face again. What lah...... Why the Chinese so like faces wan? Ended up we still have to drink 'Chinese tea' and back stabbed by others.

After the cheersing session over, most of the drunkers will go on the stage and sing their famous song, 'Jiu Gang Kang Buey Boh' and make themselves look like Mr Bean. Singing ike William Hung. Did we really attend the wedding dinner or just to go for a drink or isn't just a rendezvous for long-time-no-see relatives?

After the dinner, we'll be watching everyone complaing things here and there. No piglet lah, no fish lah, no this lah, no that lah, desserts should serve Leng Zhai Kang lah, bride not pretty lah, overweight lah, can see her big hips lah... all sorts of complains around. At last, why we must have wedding dinners? What for we send invitations as no one is interested in the wedding dinners?

14 Comments:

  • At 8:54 AM, Blogger invisible sheen said…

    wedding dinner is always a headache.
    when got wedding dinner, my family will pass the opportunity around, no one wants to go...
    but then if don't have dinner, den have wat? lunch? breakfast? hmm, will consider having wedding breakfast.. sounds fresh and cost saving. just have cereals for every1.

     
  • At 10:37 AM, Blogger emotionalistic said…

    If you ask me, i will rather not have a wedding dinner too. No one to put on a fake smile all day long. Very tiring one you know!! Best is to go for honeymoon with your hubby/wife alone....but only if both side parents allow us to do so (which i doubt so).

     
  • At 11:32 AM, Blogger Loc Kee said…

    Aiya small boy, you wil never know la, wedding is not 2 people's matter, it involve both parents and their older parents...
    its the old people that want this type of thing.

    for me its like people Invite you to eat, you have to Pay and eat those thing that you don't like. plus, overprice!!! :<

     
  • At 12:59 PM, Blogger CLF said…

    Havent attend any of those dinner since last year.
    Think optimistic.... you can earn a free dinner!! :D
    Or, bring something there to entertain urself regardless adult's complain, like mp3 player, or a book. ;)

     
  • At 2:20 PM, Blogger kiasi said…

    hollow sheen : what if they request for HK style dim sum?

    emotionalistic : go honeymoon wait must buy those presents back for them leh...

    loc kee : yaloh, not nice, and then mostly meet up with strangers you don't even know.

    clf : free dinner? "for me its like people Invite you to eat, you have to Pay and eat those thing that you don't like. plus, overprice!!! :< "

     
  • At 4:09 PM, Blogger 5xmom ~chanlilian.net~ said…

    Last time when I got married hor, I never follow tradition and only held a buffet dinner for my bosses (big angpow mah), colleagues (also big angpows) and a few relatives (rugi business wan) only. No ting-ting-tang-tang kind of ceremony wan.

     
  • At 7:33 PM, Blogger Su Zen said…

    hehe. i think it depends how close you are to the person marrying. if my friend marry i sure wanna go and give support

    anyways, i agree with loc kee and emotionalistic. most couples do it to 'ying chau' their parents

    in conclusion, next time when you marry make sure your wedding dinner is different lo. can always ban singing and drinking and ang pow. tatau. i hate exams

     
  • At 8:55 PM, Blogger kiasi said…

    5xMom : Yahor, people come and go. Not so conjested. After makan, people go away, and then next people will come continuously. But mostly food are fried wan wor.

    Su Zen : maybe will go to Melbourne and hold my wedding dinner. No people will come :p

     
  • At 11:47 AM, Blogger Su Zen said…

    lol i'll go

     
  • At 1:14 PM, Blogger kiasi said…

    Su Zen : sure. But remeber to bring your hubby that time ah.

     
  • At 2:18 PM, Blogger Su Zen said…

    lol i think u marry already i also haven't married

     
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